You've tried support groups like AA and maybe it worked for a few days, or weeks, or if you were lucky a few months, but eventually you drank alcohol again and it was as if nothing had changed. You drank just as much as the night you quit. You ended up right where you were before you went to AA.

You thought, maybe AA is the problem, it's too rough and rigid, too harsh for you. So you tried another support group that was less rigid, something like Celebrate Recovery or S.M.A.R.T. Recovery, but that didn't work either because you eventually drank (way too  much) alcohol again.

You've tried therapy. In fact all of the therapists keep insisting that you need to fix your mental health and then your issues with alcohol will get better, but so much time has passed and it's still not better.

You may have even tried talking with your doctor, but they have just tried to counsel you to figure out what your triggers are to get you to begin drinking each time. Or they just tell you to try keeping a drink log. Or maybe they try to convince you to stop drinking because of the negative effects of heavy drinking to your health over time. They just end up referring you back to a therapist and support group.

You feel like you're being sent in a circle.

Forget family and friends. They have no tolerance for your issues with alcohol. They tell you that you don't care about them, your kids, your life, etc. They really don't understand why you can't just stop drinking. Their standing question is that if drinking leads to negative consequences for you, then why do you keep doing it?

But you are just as perplexed as they are. 

You are hopeless. You have absolutely no confidence that this will ever get better as long as you live here on this earth, in this lifetime.

I totally get it because I've been here myself. I've also worked with so many women wh come to me after spending so much time and money with support groups, therapists, doctors, and more and not getting anywhere but instead staying stuck, suffering.