HI, I'M Crystal
IT'S TIME TO REFRAME OUR UNDERSTANDING OF ALCOHOL RECOVERY.
IT'S TIME TO HELP YOU FIND THE PATH OF RECOVERY THAT ACTUALLY WORKS FOR YOU.
I SEE YOU STRUGGLING TO FIND THE PATH OF RECOVERY THAT ACTUALLY WORKS FOR YOU.
I see you hearing from everyone around you one solution to your problem, and one solution only - "You can’t drink alcohol anymore, ever again because you have a problem."
So in desperation to get better you decide to not drink ever again.
You feel good for a few hours, maybe if you’re lucky a few days, but eventually you get those overwhelming cravings and obsessive thoughts for alcohol.
You try so hard to ignore them, to shove them down, to distract yourself.
But they keep coming every couple hours, then every hour until eventually you surrender and reach for a drink.
You enjoy that first drink, maybe even the second or third. You start thinking this may be the time when you’re finally able to drink like a "normal person", something you’ve longed for.
But then it becomes fuzzy and the next thing you know, you find yourself waking up to an instant shock of stress that rushes through your entire body with simultaneous flashbacks of what you did last night when you were drunk out of your mind.
You’re embarrassed. You feel such regret. You’re paranoid of the consequences of what you did when you were drunk out of your mind. You’re terrified for the memories that are to come throughout the day ahead of you.
You have such a headache, you’re so thirsty, but you’re also scared that whatever water you drink will just come right back up.
I see you hopeless because you don’t believe you’ll ever get better. You don't see a way out, a solution.
THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO BE YOUR STORY FOR MUCH LONGER.
You want to be able to enjoy alcohol like a "normal person", enjoy a drink or two. Or you may want to actually be able to successfully part with alcohol –
you just have no idea how to make this happen.
HEY YOU, I'M CRYSTAL!
I 'm on a mission to help us reframe how we understand alcohol recover, more specifically I help women find the path of recovery that actually works for them. There's an amazing life God has waiting for them on the other side!
You're not alone. After suffering for nearly a decade under the sobriety through nothing but sheer willpower approach, I was finally able to find an alternative way, recover in just 3 short months and stay recovered ever since. Now I help other women do the same!
It's my mission to help you learn all the different paths of recovery available to you, help you discover your goals (not anyone else's goals for you, your goals) with alcohol, connect you with the path of recovery that best aligns with your goals, connect you with all you need to accomplish your goals and help you to truly forgive and release all those who have caused you harm along your journey of fighting to recover!
HERE IS MY STORY . . .
LIFE USED TO BE REALLY REALLY HARD FOR ME.
Now I get to travel all around the world on my mission to reframe the way we understand alcohol recovery and I get to help women find the path of recovery that actually works for them, but it wasn’t always like this for me. Alcohol used to wreak havoc in my life personally, relationally, professionally, on my health and more for nearly a decade.
I began drinking alcohol in my early 20s merely because it was the socially acceptable thing to do, but it wasn’t long before alcohol started to wreak havoc in my life. I lost relationships, I lost a job, I was kicked out of a prestigious university, and more.
Once I realized alcohol was wreaking havoc in my life I reached out for help to get better. I went to therapy, support groups such as AA and Celebrate Recovery, I sought help from my pastor, I prayed and journaled begging God for the answer of how to heal, I went up to the front after church service for prayer, I sought help from doctors, I had an accountability partner and more.
It seemed that any and everyone had one answer and one answer only - that I had a problem with alcohol and because of that I couldn’t drink alcohol ever again for the rest of my life. So, I set out to not drink alcohol ever again so I could get better, but I failed miserably every single time.
I REALLY HATED BEING ME BECAUSE I COULDN'T GET BETTER NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRIED.
It wasn’t until I came across this TED Talk on YouTube that things began to change for me. The speaker claimed to have found the cure to alcoholism. At first I thought this was way too good to be true so I completely disregarded it.
Eventually though I became so desperate and was willing to try anything to get better, even something that sounded way too good to be true. So, I set out to try it!
You would think that this was my happily ever after part of the story, but it’s not. To try what the speaker was talking about I needed a doctor to prescribe a specific medication that I needed to take a very specific way.
So I went to my family doctor and I explained to them the issue, what I had tried and failed at time and time again, but what I wanted to try next. To my surprise the doctor denied me the medication. This was after she tried to counsel me to keep a drink log and moderate my alcohol drinking by sheer willpower, as if that isn’t what I explained to her I failed at time and time again for nearly a decade. I insisted on speaking to a doctor that was higher up and the clinical director of the practice came in and told me that she thought I was trying to go through the back door for treatment.
I went to another practice where a doctor there had been helpful to me in the past but she said that I was trying to be my own doctor and treat myself.
I went to a third practice and that doctor also denied me treatment and eventually told me to get out of their office.
EVENTUALLY THINGS FINALLY BEGAN TO GET BETTER.
I eventually found a doctor who was willing to prescribe me the medication, the only caveat is that I needed to pay out of pocket. At the time I was a single mother who was as single as a single mother could be because my daughter’s biological father had abandoned us when he found out I was pregnant and I had absolutely no family whatsoever in my life. So, I robbed Peter to pay Paul, took money I needed for my rent at the time and I paid this doctor.
Then a miracle happened. What I could not do in nearly a decade to get better, I was able to do in just 2-3 months. After 2-3 months I had no more episodes as I call them where I drank way too much alcohol and did or said something that completely embarrassed myself, I had no more obsessive thoughts or cravings for alcohol, I was completely better.
Ironically enough, my therapist of almost 5 years dropped me as a client once I got better because she didn’t agree with my approach to treatment, which was ironic because she agreed with my approach and was happy to work with me when I was failing miserably for all those years before. I still don’t understand that one either to this day.
If I want to drink alcohol in moderation, enjoying a drink or two if I like I can and I don’t even realize I stop drinking at a certain point when I’ve had enough because it’s that natural to not over-drink anymore.
Or I can abstain from alcohol if I like and not even realize that I’m not drinking alcohol, until I realize that I didn’t realize.
It’s surreal and a dream for someone who has been where I was, but now it’s my reality.
IT TOOK ME ONLY A FEW MONTHS TO TO GET BETTER ONCE I FINALLY FOUND THE PATH OF RECOVERY THAT WORKED FOR ME.
I WENT FROM ALCOHOL WREAKING HAVOC IN MY LIFE
TO GAINING TOTAL POWER OVER ALCOHOL.
THEN THINGS REALLY GOT BETTER.
After I reframed the way I think about alcohol recovery and found the path of recovery that actually worked for me, my mental health healing skyrocketed! I was finally able to heal from the Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Major Depressive Disorder, both residue from my traumatic childhood.
All those I sought help from - therapists, doctors, peers from support groups such as AA and Celebrate Recovery, pastors and people from church, my friends and society at large for nearly a decade always insisted that I needed to focus on healing my mental health and as a result my issues with alcohol would get better. This couldn't have been further from the truth!
My mental health healing skyrocketed even further when I decided to invest in myself and hire a life coach!
I'm so grateful to be where I am today.
I am so grateful to have completely reframed the way I understand alcohol recovery and to finally have found the path of recovery that actually works for me!
I go days, weeks, months without alcohol ever even being a thought for me! When I am around alcohol or alcohol is offered to me I truly don't even want it. Better yet, if I ever want to enjoy a cold one watching the game or glass of wine relaxing in the tub someday, I know what I need to do to actually enjoy it without it gripping me and sending me back into addiction.
I finally recovered from the trauma I survived as a child and young adult and when issues do come up (as realistically in life they are bound to) I can 100% work through them now.
I am an amazing and present mom to my kids and wife to my husband (and 2 fur babies). I am a business owner helping us reframe how we understand alcohol recovery and I have the honor and privilege of helping other women find the path of recovery that actually works for them! I also began and run a nonprofit to help single moms who are struggling to afford basic necessities.
You absolutely deserve the same. Everyone deserves to find the path of recovery that actually works for them. Everyone.
With the right tools, someone who knows the path (and the different sub-paths ahead) and someone to walk alongside you, it's 100% possible for you to find the path of recovery that actually works for you too.
You can absolutely find the path of recovery that actually works for you and be able to truly say that alcohol no longer has a hold on you.
IT’S YOUR TIME.
IT’S TIME TO REFRAME THE WAY YOU UNDERSTAND ALCOHOL RECOVERY AND FIND THAT PATH OF RECOVERY THAT ACTUALLY WORKS FOR YOU. GOD HAS AN AMAZING LIFE WAITING FOR YOU ON THE OTHER SIDE!
SOME FUN FACTS ABOUT ME . . .
I love to sing and write music. I taught myself how to play the guitar and keys so I had background music instead of singing them a cappella.
Total beach girl here!! A day at the beach is the best day everrr.
I hate roller coasters and planes - I hate things that are fast and I’m terrified of heights. I promise you I will never go skydiving!
Total Jersey girl here, born and raised! I once sat at a gas pump for 5 minutes before I realized I was in PA. (In New Jersey we don’t pump our own gas, but right across the bridge in Pennsylvania they do haha).
I am a survivor of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder & Major Depressive Disorder as a result of my traumatic childhood and Alcohol Use Disorder (high on the spectrum) thanks to my genetics.
I love to go for nice long runs, letting my skin soak up the sun, blasting my worship music to bask in how amazing God is and how much God loves me.
I'm super passionate about only using natural, chemical-free products for myself and my family.
Former single mama here, I began a nonprofit to help other single parents who are financially struggling.
It took me over 30 years to finally be comfortable in my own skin.
My kids, hubby and dogs saved my life and made me realize I am loved <3
I am fully committed to my journey of healing, and I am fully
committed to helping you do the same.
Crystal is on a mission to reframe our understanding of alcohol recovery. More specifically, she helps women find the path of recovery that actually works for them so they can finally be free. There is an amazing life God has for them on the other side.
She lets them know they're not alone. After suffering for nearly a decade under the sobriety through nothing but sheer willpower approach, she was finally able to find an alternative way, recover in just 3 short months and stay recovered ever since. Now she helps other women do the same!
Through her programs and speaking, Crystal helps women learn all the different paths of recovery available to them, helps them discover their goals (not anyone else's goals for them, their goals) with alcohol, connect them with the path of recovery that best aligns with their goals, helps connect them with all they need to accomplish their goals and helps them to truly forgive and release all those who have caused them harm along their journey of fighting to recover!
Crystal has an MA in Research & Analysis, an MA in Child Advocacy & Policy with a Child Public Welfare Concentration and 10+ years of experience working in the addiction and trauma recovery field. She is obsessed with helping women all around the world reframe their understanding of alcohol recovery and find the path of recovery that actually works for them.
*Crystal lives across from the healing Delaware River in New Jersey - however travels internationally to speak and hold workshops around the world